Sharing Joy and Grief
Our lives are often marked by big moments -- marriage, birth or adoption of a child, the death of those we love. These moments are both deeply personal and communal. As minister, I honor the personal and private aspects of these moments while helping celebrate the ways they touch and are part of a community's shared commitment.
Weddings
Whenever I get the joy and honor of marrying a couple, I remind them and the gathered beloveds that marriage is a choice. We can love each other, build lives together, without a wedding or a marriage certificate. Weddings, though, remind us that marriages are both deeply personal and joyously public; a declaration of love and commitment two people make to each other, and an announcement to the world that love and hope abide.
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Remembering and Celebrating
The threads that connect us are not cut when a loved one dies. The connection changes, of course, but it remains.
Each of our connections is different. And so I help friends and family draw together as many threads as we can. In shared pieces, stories, pictures, we say goodbye. And we also remind ourselves of ways to keep saying hello - to their memory, to the ways they made us laugh or cry or grumble. To remind ourselves and each other of the ways this singular person has shaped and still shapes our own lives.